I’ve always said that love is freedom.
I know I have to remind myself of this sometimes in dealing with others. Cause when it’s all said and done, you can’t MAKE someone love you. They have to CHOOSE to love you.
Love is about letting someone be completely and totally who they are. That also includes trusting in the mate you decided to be with to exercise integrity, respect, and overall good morals and values.
Based on that, it’s up to you to decide what you will accept.
Jada Pinkett-Smith took to Facebook today. She finally posted a statement in regards to the criticism umbrella that has been over her and Will’s marriage about them being in an open marriage. I had to post this.
I applaud her for this. My sentiments exactly. Check it!
Let me first say this, there are far more important things to talk about in regards to what is happening in the world than whether I have an open marriage or not. I am addressing this issue because a very important subject has been born from discussions about my statement that may be worthy of addressing.
The statement I made in regard to, “Will can do whatever he wants,” has illuminated the need to discuss the relationship between trust and love and how they co-exist.
Do we believe loving someone means owning them? Do we believe that ownership is the reason someone should “behave”? Do we believe that all the expectations, conditions, and underlying threats of “you better act right or else” keep one honest and true? Do we believe that we can have meaningful relationships with people who have not defined nor live by the integrity of his or her higher self? What of unconditional love? Or does love look like, feel like, and operate as enslavement? Do we believe that the more control we put on someone the safer we are? What of TRUST and LOVE?
Should we be married to individuals who can not be responsible for themselves and their families within their freedom? Should we be in relationships with individuals who we can not entrust to their own values, integrity, and LOVE…for us???
Here is how I will change my statement…Will and I BOTH can do WHATEVER we want, because we TRUST each other to do so. This does NOT mean we have an open relationship…this means we have a GROWN one.
And the doors of the chuuuuch are open!! Hahaaaa! Tell’em Mrs.Smith!!