That’s all we can do is send love to DMX.
I got a chance to watch Iyanla Vanzant’s “Fix My Life” with DMX last night. I didn’t get out of it what most people did as far as DMX needing help. We’ve always known he has needed help.
But I felt for Xavier, his son more than anything.
What struck me the most was Xavier choosing love instead of judgement for his father.
At the beginning of the interview, he had a lot of hatred in his heart for his father. But by the time Iyanla finished talking to him right before he got a chance to confront his father, his heart changed for him. He consciously made another choice. His heart became open with compassion instead of closed with resentment.
He CHOSE love.
He remembered his father was just a human being that has a disease. And he was prepared to talk to him like a teacher, instead of talk down to him with the “You did this or You did that.” I can only imagine how hard that was for him to do based on all the pain he had caused his mother(DMX’s estranged wife) and him. But when you consciously choose something, it’s another form of acceptance.
Xavier was so courageous and strong to face his father and ask for what he wanted from him which was a “clean” relationship. He was ok with whatever direction DMX would take because he had that peace about it that only God can give you. He made a decision to love his father regardless of what he would choose. But he took a stand. “The drugs? Or me?”
And when it was all said and done, DMX still chose his addiction over his son. Heartbreaking.
Love is a choice, an action. It is not a feeling.
Just like in the Word of God, the whole passage from 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 describes ways to act, not feel.
You choose to love someone despite what they do or how they act or how they make you feel.
It’s not fleeting, it’s unconditional.
Thank you Xavier for displaying the real meaning of love in front of the world!